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See the patterns you bring into relationships while there’s room to work on them, whether you’re dating now or not looking yet.
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Does any of this feel familiar?
- I overthink messages early on.
- I start adapting before I know what I want.
- Distance feels like rejection.
- I agree to things, then regret it.
- The same kind of person keeps feeling familiar.
Early dating brings old patterns out quickly. Knowing yours makes them easier to catch.
Old patterns show up early, usually before you notice them.
Adapting before you know what you want. Reading a slow reply as rejection. Saying yes to keep things easy. RQ shows which of these you lean towards, and gives you something to practise before, during or between relationships.
What your RQ profile looks at here
- How quickly you adapt to someone else
- How you read distance and slow replies
- Whether you say no when something doesn’t fit
- What feels familiar, and why
Your focus
ExampleBoundaries & respect
You tend to agree before checking whether something actually feels right.
First practices
- 1Notice the first hesitation
- 2Buy yourself time before answering
- 3Say what you actually want
Starting again doesn’t have to mean finding someone.
The same score can mean something different depending on where you are and what you want to change. That’s why the assessment asks about both before it scores anything.
Where you are
Together, dating, unsure, separated, starting again.
What you want to change
Closeness, conflict, trust, boundaries, clarity, letting go.
Your RQ pattern
Eight dimensions, and the one holding the rest back.
Your personal plan
What to practise first, in your situation, a few minutes a day.
One low score, seven situations
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- Where they are
- Single, starting again
- What they want to change
- Build healthier relationships in the future
Where the plan puts its attention
Recognise how conflict tends to go for you, so it doesn’t repeat in the next relationship.
A first practice: Trace what you usually do in the first minute of a disagreement.
Example. It shows how context changes what a score asks of you; your plan is built from your own answers.
From seeing the pattern to changing it.
See what you get01
Understand
See the pattern connecting your answers.
02
Focus
Know which skill deserves attention first.
03
Practise
Work on small behaviours in real situations.
04
Get support
Use the coach when something happens.
05
See change
Retake your profile and see what moved.
Work on your patterns at your own pace.
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Your personal answers are never sold or used for advertising.
No guilt mechanics
No streaks to protect. Miss a day and nothing is taken away.
Research-informed
The skills it measures come from published relationship research. RQ itself is our own framework, not a clinical diagnostic tool.
Safety comes first. Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
If any of these stop being true, that's a bug, and we'd like to hear about it.
Notes for the next chapter.
Practical pieces on boundaries, rejection and the habits worth noticing early.
Questions people ask when they’re starting again.
All questionsYes. Between relationships you can look at your patterns without also handling someone else’s reaction to them, and practise before the next relationship starts.
That’s a good time. You can notice patterns early, while they’re still easy to change, and nothing about it involves the other person.
No. Everything works from your side alone. Friendships, family and dating all give you something to practise with.
The assessment, your RQ score and band, the skill with the most room to grow and the one you’re strongest at, both with their scores, and what the pattern means. Your other six dimension scores, the daily plan and the app are Premium. No account and no payment to take the questions.
Yes. Your answers are saved to your session so you can close the tab and come back. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can ask us to delete all of it.
Why it is safe to be honest
Your answers are yours. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can have all of it deleted. There are no streaks to protect, and RelationQ does not decide whether you stay, leave or try again.
Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
How RQ is put togetherSee the pattern before it follows you forward.
Six minutes, a profile of how you relate, and a first thing to practise.
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