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Understand how communication, trust, conflict, boundaries and the rest work together.
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Know what to work on next.
Your profile highlights the skill that could make the biggest difference first.
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Do any of these feel familiar?
- You wait too long to say what’s bothering you.
- The same argument keeps coming back in different forms.
- When someone goes quiet, it feels like rejection.
- You apologise, but nothing really gets repaired.
- Things aren’t bad. You just feel less close than you used to.
- It ended, but your mind is still inside it.
- You’ve separated, but every practical conversation still carries the old relationship.
Moments like these usually aren’t isolated. They form patterns, and a pattern is something you can see and work on.
Find yoursFor where you are now.
Single, dating, together, unsure, or working out what happens now it has ended. Pick the one that sounds closest and the questions follow from there.
You can start on your own. Your partner does not need to join, and nobody is told you took it.
Start with where I amYour focus is where the plan starts.
The lowest-scoring dimension usually limits the others, because the moments it affects are the ones people remember. So your plan spends its first weeks there, then moves on. Retake the profile later and see what moved.
In the example profile, the focus isConflict & repair (62)
What a number means
32-95
- Developing 32-51
- Hard in a lot of situations right now.
- Mixed 52-65
- You have it, until there is pressure.
- Solid 66-79
- Reliable in most situations.
- Strong 80-95
- One of your steadiest.
Your plan adapts to your situation.
The same score can mean something different depending on where you are and what you want to change. That’s why the assessment asks about both before it scores anything.
Where you are
Together, dating, unsure, separated, starting again.
What you want to change
Closeness, conflict, trust, boundaries, clarity, letting go.
Your RQ pattern
Eight dimensions, and the one holding the rest back.
Your personal plan
What to practise first, in your situation, a few minutes a day.
One low score, seven situations
Conflict & repair 62
- Where they are
- Together, and it’s going well
- What they want to change
- Keep it that way
Where the plan puts its attention
Keep small repairs quick, so good stretches stay good and friction doesn’t collect.
A first practice: After your next small disagreement, say one thing that helped.
Example. It shows how context changes what a score asks of you; your plan is built from your own answers.
What you actually do with it.
Most days this takes a few minutes. Here is what those minutes look like.
Today
Two or three steps a day, chosen for the pattern you are working on.
Coach
It has already read your profile, so you can start in the middle.
We had the same argument again.
Practices
A few minutes for the moment you are actually in.
Name the feeling
1 minFact or fear?
2 minShift the Thought
3 minPaced breathing
4 minGuided affirmations
3 minRepair
3 minProgrammes
One pattern, taken apart a day at a time.
Conflict Reset7 days
- The ninety seconds beforeDay 1
- What sets it offDay 2
- What was said, and what was heardDay 3
- Steady in the middle of itDay 4
- The kinder version of the true thingDay 5
Drawings of the real screens, with example content. Everything shown is in the app today.
A hard day, with RelationQ.
Most of it takes a minute or two. You use what the day needs and skip the rest.
Morning
Check in
1 min
Midday
Something lands badly
In the moment
Name the feeling
1 min
Before you talk
Prepare to talk
Coach
If it goes wrong
Repair
3 min
Evening
A few lines
Journal
An illustrative day. Everything shown is in the app today.
Progress doesn’t look dramatic. It looks different.
One conversation handled better. One boundary held. One old pattern caught before it ran its course.
Example stories, written around the patterns the assessment measures. They illustrate the kind of change the plan works towards; they are not customer reviews.
“The biggest change is probably after arguments. I don’t need two days to come back anymore. Sometimes it’s an hour and we’re just sitting there talking again.”
Conflict & repair
Communication
can we talk about the dinner thing later? it’s not a big deal, I just don’t want to sit on it
18:42yes of course. glad you said something
“I used to wait until I was already angry before bringing something up. Now I notice it earlier and just say it. It doesn’t turn into a whole thing anymore.”
Self-awareness
Self-awareness
58 to 66
32Example readout, after a retake95
“I always thought we just argued too much. Turns out it was the same argument in different forms. Once I could see it, stopping it halfway got a lot easier.”
“I’m getting better at saying what I need without immediately worrying they’ll leave.”
Trust & security
Emotional regulation
I still overthink sometimes. I just catch myself a lot sooner now.
Answer honestly. We’ll handle it with care.
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Your personal answers are never sold or used for advertising.
No guilt mechanics
No streaks to protect. Miss a day and nothing is taken away.
Your decisions stay yours
RelationQ doesn’t decide whether you should stay, leave or reconcile. It helps you see the pattern either way.
Research-informed
The skills it measures come from published relationship research. RQ itself is our own framework, not a clinical diagnostic tool.
Safety comes first. Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
If any of these stop being true, that's a bug, and we'd like to hear about it.
When something keeps happening, start here.
Practical guidance for the conversations, patterns and moments relationships tend to get stuck in.
What people ask before they start.
All questionsNo. It works from your side alone, because your half is the part you can change. Nobody else is told you took it.
RQ is our own framework. It is not a validated clinical instrument and not an IQ equivalent. The skills it measures come from published relationship research, and it scores them the same way each time so you can see change.
The assessment, your RQ score and band, the skill with the most room to grow and the one you’re strongest at, both with their scores, and what the pattern means. Your other six dimension scores, the daily plan and the app are Premium. No account and no payment to take the questions.
Yes. Your answers are saved to your session so you can close the tab and come back. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can ask us to delete all of it.
Why it is safe to be honest
Your answers are yours. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can have all of it deleted. There are no streaks to protect, and RelationQ does not decide whether you stay, leave or try again.
Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
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