When something feels off
Nothing is terribly wrong. But something feels different.
Put words to the distance, tension or doubt, and see the pattern underneath it before you decide what it means.
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Does any of this feel familiar?
- We talk, but rarely about anything important.
- Small things irritate me more than they used to.
- We spend time together but feel less close.
- I keep wondering whether I’m making too much of it.
- Nothing dramatic happened. It just feels different.
Feeling less close is common, and it usually has a shape. Seeing that shape comes before deciding anything.
Distance usually builds from small, repeated moments.
A conversation that keeps getting postponed. A reaction you swallow. A repair that never quite happens. None of it looks serious on its own. RQ shows which of these moments you tend to be part of, and which skill would change them most.
What your RQ profile looks at here
- What you do with irritation
- Whether hard conversations happen or wait
- How you respond when someone pulls back
- How clearly you know what you want
Your focus
ExampleConflict & repair
You tend to let tension pass without coming back to it, so it stays in the room longer than either of you notices.
First practices
- 1Raise one small thing while it still sounds small
- 2Come back to a conversation that ended flat
- 3Say what you’d like more of
What “off” asks of you depends on what you want next.
The same score can mean something different depending on where you are and what you want to change. That’s why the assessment asks about both before it scores anything.
Where you are
Together, dating, unsure, separated, starting again.
What you want to change
Closeness, conflict, trust, boundaries, clarity, letting go.
Your RQ pattern
Eight dimensions, and the one holding the rest back.
Your personal plan
What to practise first, in your situation, a few minutes a day.
One low score, seven situations
Conflict & repair 62
- Where they are
- Living together, something feels off
- What they want to change
- Feel closer again
Where the plan puts its attention
Bring up small things earlier, reduce the quiet distance, and repair sooner.
A first practice: Raise one small thing this week while it still sounds small.
Example. It shows how context changes what a score asks of you; your plan is built from your own answers.
From seeing the pattern to changing it.
See what you get01
Understand
See the pattern connecting your answers.
02
Focus
Know which skill deserves attention first.
03
Practise
Work on small behaviours in real situations.
04
Get support
Use the coach when something happens.
05
See change
Retake your profile and see what moved.
It helps you see clearly. The decision stays yours.
Your decisions stay yours
RelationQ doesn’t decide whether you should stay, leave or reconcile. It helps you see the pattern either way.
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Your personal answers are never sold or used for advertising.
Research-informed
The skills it measures come from published relationship research. RQ itself is our own framework, not a clinical diagnostic tool.
Safety comes first. Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
If any of these stop being true, that's a bug, and we'd like to hear about it.
Notes for when things feel different.
Practical pieces on distance, tension and the conversations that keep getting postponed.
Questions people ask when something feels off.
All questionsThat’s a common place to start. The assessment helps separate what has changed from what you’re worried has changed, and shows which part of how you relate is under the most strain.
No. That decision stays yours. RelationQ helps you understand what’s happening and what you might practise, whatever you decide.
No. It works from your side alone, because your half is the part you can change. Nobody else is told you took it.
Yes. Your answers are saved to your session so you can close the tab and come back. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can ask us to delete all of it.
The assessment, your RQ score and band, the skill with the most room to grow and the one you’re strongest at, both with their scores, and what the pattern means. Your other six dimension scores, the daily plan and the app are Premium. No account and no payment to take the questions.
Why it is safe to be honest
Your answers are yours. We never sell them or use them for advertising, and you can have all of it deleted. There are no streaks to protect, and RelationQ does not decide whether you stay, leave or try again.
Abuse isn’t treated as a communication problem. If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you toward people trained to help.
How RQ is put togetherPut a name to what keeps feeling different.
Six minutes, a profile that shows the pattern, and a first step that fits where you are.
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