How it works
Seven minutes to understand your relationship patterns.
Answer simple questions about how you connect, communicate, and handle difficult moments. Discover your free RQ profile, then choose whether to build a personal plan around what you learn.
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How RelationQ works.
1Free
Tell us where you are
Pick your situation, then answer questions about everyday moments. It takes about seven minutes.
Example
When a conversation gets heated, what usually happens to you?
- I get louder and say things I regret
- I go quiet and stop responding
- I rush to calm things down
2Free
Discover your RQ profile
See your strongest skills and the one that makes a good place to start.
Example
Your RQ band
Solid
- Self-awarenessSolid
- Conflict & repairMixed
Recommended starting point
3Optional, paid
Choose how to move forward
If you want more, a plan in the app gives you a few minutes of guided practice a day.
Name It Without Blame
4 min
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The eight dimensions
Eight skills. A clearer picture of your patterns.
Your RQ profile shows how you approach communication, trust, conflict, and other relationship skills, so you can see your strengths and where to focus next.
- Developing32–52
- Mixed53–70
- Solid71–95
Scores come from your own answers about what you usually do. They describe you, not anyone else, and they aren’t a diagnosis or a prediction about a relationship. How scores work
Conflict & repair
Handling disagreement, and reconnecting afterwards.
What it can look like
“The argument ends, and nobody brings the problem up again.”
Practice this
Repair within 24 hours
- 1Name one thing you could have done better.
- 2Ask what the other person experienced.
- 3Agree on one thing to try differently.
Conflict & repair
What RelationQ tracks
- Conversations revisited
- Repairs attempted
- Agreements followed up
3 of 8. Counted, never graded
What’s free
Start for free. Go further when you’re ready.
The assessment is free. You can decide whether to purchase a personal plan after seeing your results.
7-minute assessment · Free
Free RQ profile
Complete the assessment and discover your relationship patterns, strengths, and the skill worth focusing on first.
- Your overall RQ band
- Your two strongest skills
- Where you can grow
- The skill worth starting with
Optional · Paid
Personal plan
Choose a plan to access guided practices, lessons, and ongoing support tailored to your needs.
- A few minutes of guided practice a day, chosen for your focus
- Lessons and masterclasses
- An AI coach to talk things through
- All eight skills, and how they change, in the app
1, 4 or 12-week plans, with the price shown before you pay. See what you get
Your plan
A personal plan built around you.
Your situation, goals, and RQ profile help shape the practices and lessons recommended for you.
Your situation
Where things stand right now.
Your goals
What you’d like to change.
Your RQ profile
Your strengths and your focus.
Your personal plan
Practices and lessons chosen for you.
Illustrative example
- Where you are
- We’re together, but something feels off.
- Your goal
- Feel closer again.
- Your RQ focus
- Conflict & repair
- Your starting point
- Notice what happens before conversations become tense, and practise expressing what you need more clearly.
Two practices from a plan like this
4 minName It Without Blame
Say what happened without guessing why — then find what would help next.
3 minSay It, Then Pause
Say one thing that matters clearly, then leave room for a response.
Methodology
Built around relationship research.
RelationQ draws on established ideas about communication, emotional regulation, trust, and relationship patterns to help you reflect on how you relate to others.
Your RQ profile is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical diagnosis.
RQ is our own framework and hasn’t been independently validated. We use original items rather than copying validated questionnaires, and we don’t claim their validation as ours.
How your scores work
Why these eight skills?
Each is something researchers have studied and linked to how relationships go, such as communication, handling emotions, conflict and trust, and each is something you can practise. Grouping them into eight, and the RQ scale itself, are RelationQ’s own.
How do my answers become scores?
Everyone answers the same core questions about what they usually do in familiar moments. Each answer counts towards one or two skills, every skill is built from several answers, and the eight count equally. Questions about your situation shape your plan, never your RQ.
How is my focus chosen?
Your focus is the skill with the most room to grow, because that is usually where a little practice makes the most difference first. In the app you can change it whenever you like.
How do my results shape my plan?
Your plan picks practices for your focus and your situation, and leaves out what doesn’t fit where you are. Practices about an ex, for example, only appear after a breakup.
What should I take from my scores?
How you tend to respond right now, from your own answers. A score isn’t a diagnosis, a measure of anyone else, or a prediction about a relationship, and it can change as you practise.
Three of the studies behind the skills
- 01
Relationship satisfaction is measurable, and short scales track it as well as long ones.
Funk & Rogge (2007), Couples Satisfaction Index
doi:10.1037/0893-3200.21.4.572 - 02
Interpersonal competence separates into distinct skills (initiation, disclosure, conflict management) rather than one general ability.
Buhrmester et al. (1988), Interpersonal Competence Questionnaire
doi:10.1037/0022-3514.55.6.991 - 03
Perceived partner responsiveness predicts relationship outcomes independently of satisfaction.
Crasta et al. (2021), Perceived Responsiveness and Insensitivity Scale
doi:10.1037/pas0000986
Private by default
Your answers are never sold or used for ads.
No pressure to keep up
No streaks to protect. Miss a day and you lose nothing.
Your decisions stay yours
RelationQ won’t tell you whether to stay, leave or get back together. It helps you see the pattern, whatever you decide.
Safety comes first
If your answers suggest you may not be safe, we stop and point you to people trained to help. Abuse is never treated as a communication problem.
Your progress
See how your patterns change.
Progress isn’t always a big breakthrough. Sometimes it’s recognizing a trigger sooner, speaking up more clearly, or handling a difficult moment differently.
Use your Journey to reflect on the steps you’ve taken and notice what changes over time.
Your roadmap
Five chapters for your focus. You move on when you look back and choose to, never because time passed.
Everything you’ve done
Check-ins, practices, lessons and journal entries, newest first.
Your week and month
How many check-ins and practices, and the minutes you spent.
Your eight skills
Retake the assessment, and what grew since your first one is named for each skill.
Illustrative preview of Journey in the app
Your roadmap · Conflict & repair
- Noticing
- Steadying (current chapter)
- Repairing
- Connecting
- Sustaining
Steadying: a moment of calm before you respond.
Along the way
- Check-inGoodToday
- Name It Without BlamePractice · 4 minYesterday
- Journal entryPrivateMonday
Your eight skills
- Conflict & repairMixed
Grew since your first assessment
- Emotional regulationMixed
Your next step starts with understanding.
Discover your relationship patterns, see your strengths, and find the skill worth working on first.
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